How Money Can Buy Happiness,by AsapSCIENCE
Two thumbs up for this short video. Three if I were gifted an extra.
(Originally shared by Scott…thanks!)
The more we love someone, the more that is on the line if that relationship were to fail. The more we let someone in to who we really are, the more fodder they have access to if they were to try to hurt us. The more a parent loves a child, the harder it will be when that child seeks independence. If an addict gives up his drug habit, it means he will be healthier and happier but it also means he may have to face the inner demons he was hiding by using.
Rabbi Marc Katz, in his Kol Nidre sermon about vulnerability. I thought the sermon was really fantastic and well-delivered. In fact, I strongly encourage you (Jewish or not) to read it; it has several good teachings and questions for us all to ponder.
I can’t wait to delve into the first ever World Happiness Report. Commissioned by the United Nations Conference on Happiness, this report is a compilation of data that reflects environmental, social, physical, and structural factors that might impact happiness throughout the world.
Ariel Schwartz, a writer for Co.Exist, brought this study to my attention in her recent article. Among the top-line summary points that she shared:
Mental health is the biggest contributing factor to happiness in all countries, but only a quarter of mentally ill people get sufficient treatment in the most developed nations.
In some countries, the self-employed report higher levels of job satisfaction than the employed. The study found a positive correlation between happiness and self-employment in both American and European data, but not in Latin America. The possible reason: self-employment may be a necessity in developing countries where formal employment is not as readily available. When it’s not a choice, it doesn’t lead to happiness.
VERY INTERESTING FINDINGS.
The structure of the report and definition of the “problem” being explored, too, is fascinating as well. From the section “Rethinking the Keys to Happiness”:
We increasingly understand that we need a very different model of humanity, one in which we are a complicated interplay of emotions and rational thought, unconscious and conscious decision-making, “fast” and “slow” thinking. Many of our decisions are led by emotions and instincts, and only later rationalized by conscious thought. Our decisions are easily “primed” by associations, imagery, social context, and advertising. We are inconsistent or “irrational” in sequential choices, failing to meet basic standards of rational consistency. And we are largely unaware of our own mental apparatus, so we easily fall into traps and mistakes. Addicts do not anticipate their future pain; we spend now and suffer the consequences of bankruptcy later; we break our diets now because we aren’t thinking clearly about the consequences.
We also understand (again!) that we are social animals through and through. We learn through imitation, and gain our happiness through meeting social norms and having a sense of belonging to the community. We feel the pain of others, and react viscerally when others are sad or injured. We even have a set of “mirror neurons” that enable us to feel things from the point of view of others. All of this gives us a remarkable capacity to cooperate even with strangers, and even when there is little chance of reward or reciprocity, and to punish non-cooperators, even when imposing punishment on others is costly or puts us at risk ourselves. Of course there are limits to such cooperation and fellow feeling. We also cheat, bluff, deceive, break our word, and kill members of an out-group. We engage in identity politics, acting as cruel to outsiders as we are loving to our own group.
Cool angles and insights. And I’m sincerely glad that happiness is something we are thinking about and exploring globally, and the data can better inform issues of health, housing, food, water, governmental leadership, poverty, marriage, banking, and physical activity. Can’t wait to see if and how this is used, and if people actually take it seriously. They should.
Believe it or not, these are old images in which Guillaume Duchenne was attempting to find the perfect smile through electrodes targeted at specific muscles. He articulated this quest:
The “Duchenne smile” is a genuine one, one that seems happy and friendly. It’s the result of two different groups of muscles working together. Cheek muscles turn the lips up in a voluntary maneuver that can be faked. But the muscles under your eyes that crinkle the skin to the outer side of each eye are involuntary, and they don’t necessarily start working just because you need to make a good impression at a job interview. Only the two combined really look genuine. When you smile with just your lips, you look like you’re either faking or in pain.
Recently however, more people can fake a ‘perfect smile’. Are we as a society becoming more fake? Or less aware of the nuances of expression? Or (worst of all) less joyous?
This blog post by a friend of a friend was recently shared with me, and I found it incredibly helpful as a way of thinking ahead and not losing sight of the minutia that round out a day and also general contentment. Well worth a read, and a reread too.
Louder Than Words of the Day: A Westport Junior High student named Alye Pollack, who says she’s been bullied every day since the sixth grade, has taken to YouTube to express her misery by remaining poignantly silent.
In “Words are worse than Sticks and Stones,” a video reminiscent of the visuals for Dylan’s “Subterranean Homesick Blues,” Alye holds up placards that tell the story of a 13-year-old who is worn out by incessant emotional abuse. “I don’t cut. But I’m close,” reads one card. “HELP,” reads another.
Alye’s mother Courtney told a local news site that she only found out about the video after it was posted.
If you’d like to show your support for Alye and her cause, you can send her an e-mail at email@example.com.
It pains me how many people go through bullying like this. It’s not fun at all. Go out a limb and email Alye…. I did.